Category Archives: self-help

Tired, stressed?

Are you tired, stressed? You’ll feel better on Swisse. Gee…I sound just like Ricky Ponting! I’m sure you’ve heard that somewhere before. To be honest, we don’t need vitamins. Sorry Ricky. We need to stop and retreat!

This feeling of tiredness is there to make us slow down. To make us stop for a bit and catch our breath.

In the past months I’ve had times where I’ve felt tired and worn out. Earlier this year my daughter Matilda was born. Having broken sleep is a killer, just ask any new parents. During this time we were seeding on the farm and working some long hours. It was all very tiring.

Have a think for a moment, what are you involved in and do these things tire you out? Is it being on a number of committees or community groups?  Or is it playing sport? Depending on your line of work there will be times when you’re busy and get tired. As I now work as a farm hand the busy periods are seeding and harvest. If you’re a teacher, is it report writing, camps or even concerts? I could go on and on but I’m sure you get the picture. If you don’t get the picture, pick up your local newspaper. In my ‘local rag’ I’ve counted at least twenty-four organisations advertising stuff in the community section. There are so many groups to be involved in.

I haven’t even mentioned where our families and relationships fit into all of this. Wife, kids, parents, grandparents, brothers, sisters and mates. How do we fit the most important people into this scenario?

The point is that we all get tired, stressed or even burnt out at some stage of  our lives. The best thing we can do is try our best to avoid it.  We must simplify our lives.

When you have a heart for people and the wider community it’s hard to pull back and be selfish for a bit. If you love helping people it is so important to look after yourself. Sometimes we have to retreat to the trenches to have a break. When our soldiers are  fighting a war they don’t fight 24/7. They retreat to the trenches and their camps to catch their breath and heal the wounded. We’re the same. We need to have our own time.

Sometimes we have to take ourselves out of the organisation for a while to clear our minds.

I am involved in running the CYP Shed night. A lot of energy gets spent on organising, chatting with people and cooking BBQ’s. I love being involved with shed night but I need my own time to recharge the batteries. I do this by retreating and spending time with the Big Fella. Reading the bible gives me so much encouragement and I can continue to stand on the promises He shows me through this. The half hour drive home from work is also a time when I can crank the tunes up and sing some ‘karaoke dokey.’

‘I don’t care if I can’t sing. These are my favourite tunes. Therefore, I will sing.’

This helps me recharge. When Matilda was born I didn’t go to a shed night because it was all too much and my priority was my family. I feel less involved in things now than ever before.

I guess this leads me to priorities. I’d like some feedback here. If you’re feeling tired and worn out what can you do or not do to recharge? Instead of being on five committees and playing two sports, maybe cut back to the ones you absolutely want to do. Not the ones you feel you should do.

‘So don’t SHOULD on yourself and don’t SHOULD on anyone else.’

So sit down for ten minutes (if you can find it) and list 1-10 the most important things in your life. Let us know what they are below and let’s help each other.

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It’s time to STOP.

Not sure about you, but in this culture and world we live in today, it seems we are running on full throttle. Working each day to move our way up the ladder to a better career or job. It’s rare to find someone who has worked in the same job for twenty or more years. Why is that?

Are we wanting more out of life? Are we unhappy with the life we live today?

There are so may gadgets we use today in this techno world like iPhones, ipads, tablets (not the medical ones), apps, ebooks, etc. The world has changed so quickly, even from when I left school just 14 years ago. The internet was just new when I was doing year twelve. But now you can get on the web through our phones so easily. It’s the way of life today.

I think the intention of all these things were to make life easier. I beg to differ. I think it’s time to STOP!

In the past few weeks I’ve spoken with a number of people who have been revving at full throttle. An engine will only last so long revving flat-out.  Eventually it will blow up. We as people are exactly the same. If we keep going the way we are, the depression, high stress, burn out and mental illness will become more and more prevalent. We have to stop and smell the roses!

When we travel along a road there are a number of road signs to help keep things safe on the road. Signs like a T-junction approaching, cross-road coming up, give way and speed limit signs. The STOP sign I think is most important. If we come to an intersection with a stop sign there, we can obey the sign or not. If we don’t stop and continue through the intersection, we put ourselves and people travelling with us at risk. High risk! It can end in tragedy and loss.

It’s no different in life and in our day-to-day work. If we keep travelling along our life road and ignore the warning signs, we put ourselves at high risk. We need to STOP! We need to sit there. We need to wait for the traffic to pass. We need to let others go across in front of us. Let the buzzing cars, bikes and other traffic pass before we move forward. It doesn’t take long for traffic to pass by, but if we don’t stop and wait for the stuff to pass, it can end up burning us out and making us very unwell.  The people close to us get affected as well, if we don’t stop.

Think about for a minute how many stop signs you’d encounter on a half hour trip in a car. Not many! Depending on the difficulty of the road, you may encounter ten. On an easier road there may be three. It’s the same in life. When things are going well you may not have to stop as much, but when there is a lot going on in your life you may have to stop more often.

So my encouragement to you today is be aware of the road you’re travelling. Be aware of the stop signs. It doesn’t take long to stop every now and again. So please, please, don’t ignore the stop signs!